Relationships at University

I have been with my boyfriend for over two years
and am worried that me attending university will
split us up. He doesn’t want me to go. My friends
keep telling me that there is plenty more fish in the sea but I don’t think my friends understand how I feel. I just want to keep everyone happy, what should I do?
Neelam Luggah, Leigh-on Sea, Essex

x-cel advice: Well, firstly you should really be worrying about what it is that YOU want. It is your life after all! Relationships are all about compromise therefore if he IS the “right guy” for you then he will simply want the best for you and if that means going to university then he should be seen to be working with you to make it happen. If it is what you really want to do then remember that you could end up resenting him in the future for making you stay if you don’t have a go. Also attending university doesn’t have to mean the end to your relationship.

Hundreds of couples who meet before university manage to make the distance work and grow stronger with the change. Why not work out specific dates when he can come and see you throughout term time. That way he will feel a bit more secure about you going and you can concentrate on enjoying yourself when you are not with him and take full advantage of your new life!    

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